learn how to date better, like any other skill
A proven, skills-based approach to modern dating for the intentional man.
Most people think dating success comes down to luck, chemistry or confidence. I don’t. After years in HR, recruitment and coaching, I’ve come to believe that many of the skills that make someone a great partner can be learnt, practised, and strengthened - just like any other competency.
Dating is just the first step. You’ve got a whole life with her ahead of you.
hi, i’m wan ting:
HR professional and personal stylist turned dating coach.
My approach draws from:
8 years of HR and recruitment in a huge MNC
Globally-accredited coaching training with the International Coaching Federation
Hundreds of happy clients as an image consultant
Years in HR and recruitment exposed me to assessment matrices and competency frameworks. As they say, old habits die hard, so when I realised that dating seemed like an unsolvable mystery when it was, in fact, a series of very learnable skills, I decided to take the guesswork out of romance and build a step-by-step competency framework for your love life.
Not because love is a job interview - but because many parts of dating are learnable.
the portmanteau process: easy as ABC
Based on the Dreyfus model of skill acquisition and the HR practice of competency frameworks, the portmanteau process gives you a clear path to progress from confusion to absolute command on dates, so you feel confident and assured not just in your skills, but also in yourself.
appearance
from:
Dressing in your Uniqlo uniform because so does everyone else, and a shirt goes for $29.90 when it’s on sale
to:
Knowing for sure that what you’re wearing to that important date looks fantastic on you - and being able to recreate the look on future dates with her
beliefs
from:
Hoping that you are good enough for someone, worrying that you need to make every date count because you don’t know when the next one is coming
to:
Confidence in who you are, authenticity to stay true to yourself and your boundaries, rest and healthy detachment from the outcomes
communication
from:
Asking unremarkable questions like “how about you?” or generic conversation openers
to:
Ability to create momentum and genuine connection to get to know each other on a deeper level - faster
The portmanteau process is not a clinical checklist. It’s the combination of practical dating skills anchored in non-negotiable foundations. Because the goal isn’t to get the date; it’s to be the best partner you can be, for the one you were meant for.
my beliefs that anchor
every conversation
dating is a learnable skill.
In most areas of our life, we accept that success comes from learning and practice. Why is this expectation so different in dating?
relationships deserve intention.
Finding your life partner is one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make. It deserves more thought than simply hoping the right one appears.
trial and error is a waste of time and money.
You should not be crowdsourcing dating advice from Reddit. You need direct, actionable feedback from a woman who understands how women think.
what’s a
portmanteau?
A portmanteau is a word formed by blending two distinct words together. It carries the meanings of both words, yet has its own unique meaning - like brunch (breakfast + lunch), or spork (spoon + fork).
You’re probably here because you’re looking for your own portmanteau. You’re a whole, complete individual looking for your partner - not an incomplete half looking for someone to make you whole.
portmanteau exists for men who want to stop wasting time guessing. If you’re the kind of man who’s honest enough to admit that being on the apps just isn’t really working, you’ve already taken the first step.
more about how i work
1/
Dating is not a series of hacks or scripts.
Expect none of that here.
2 /
I will not teach you how to become someone else.
What I will do is work with you, so you uncover what's getting in your way, create a practical plan, and execute it - so you become the person you want to be, with the partner you want to have.
3 /
Every client is different.
Every man brings their own unique personality, history and goal. I bring a fresh lens to every man I meet, and every profile I view.
4 /
I prioritise continuous improvement.
Every profile audit, strategy conversation and client result continues to refine the framework I use - because dating changes, and people do too.
dating doesn’t have to be confusing.
Let’s stop asking Chat to make your Hinge prompts sound “more interesting but not arrogant”, and learn the skills to show her that you already are interesting.